Things ‘just happen’

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I belong to that school of thought which strongly believes that,

There are no good or bad people. There are only incompatible individuals.”

This no where presumes that an individual’s actions may not cause hurt to another individual. ( Let’s leave terrorists and criminals out of this conversation..I am talking about human beings like you and me🙂

What is most important here is that the intention behind the action was not one which had an agenda for causing hurt or pain to the other individual.

I am told that the hurt or pain ‘just happens’ due to expectations .

Agree, that the root cause for most moments of hurt  is ‘expectations’.

But, never really understood how things ‘just happen’.

Every action is initiated by a thought, and when a thought arises one has the option either to exercise the thought into an action or let the thought be.

The moment we choose to exercise either of the two , we are making a conscious choice and things are not ‘just happening’. We have chosen to respond to the situation a particular manner.

During a conversation session a friend had stated something very powerful, which resurfaces each day in my mind.He had stated that responsibility is “the ability to respond”.

The question that I face today is –

How am I going to respond when things ‘just happen’ ?


3 thoughts on “Things ‘just happen’

  1. Do you have the power to change what happened? Do you have the power to change the person/situation that made it happen? Will this change just cease to matter after some time?

    If none of the above, then, my dear, you’ll have to just have the strength to ignore the perpetrator and accept/ignore the offensive act.

    Convent schools sometimes teach nice things. One prayer that comes to mind,

    “God, grant us the

    Serenity to accept things we cannot change,
    Courage to change the things we can, and the
    Wisdom to know the difference
    Patience for the things that take time
    Appreciation for all that we have, and
    Tolerance for those with different struggles
    Freedom to live beyond the limitations of our past ways, the
    Ability to feel your love for us and our love for each other and the
    Strength to get up and try again even when we feel it is hopeless.”

  2. very true. and i dislike the word ‘hate’ cos i think its a very strong word to use against anyone. i prefer to say ‘ that we don’t get along’ rather than using harsh terms.

  3. ‘ability to respond’ – how the response should be? that is what matters. life is easier when you don’t expect anything from others; but i guess end of it we are humans and we tend to fall once in a way by expecting at least a ‘thank you’ or a kind word occasionally.

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